Losing is one of the greatest fears of human beings. Losing a game, losing a job, and most of all losing a loved one. When we lose, we grow a layer. A layer of toughness, that becomes a shield to never lose that way again. Losing, at what seems to be too often, can cause … Continue reading
Anxiously watching the news. Checking the weather app every ten minutes. Looking at Facebook statuses to see if your friends in other cities and states have spotted the storm yet. The whole state is on lockdown and everything is cancelled already. Peaking out the window to see if this will be a real Snowmagedon this … Continue reading
Have you ever met a challenge you did not accept? What about those New Years Resolutions? Don’t forget about the online challenges, #waterchallenge #condomchallenge #plank #21day____ . What made you accept this challenge and how far did you make it? I am part of a wellness group named “Afya”. It is mainly based in Rochester, … Continue reading
In a world where consumption is at an all time high, we have to watch closer what we are consuming. From the food we eat, to the money we spend, even the information we take in. In this section, I will post some of the references I consume for the information I possess and share. … Continue reading
“The best things in life are free.” “Money make the world go round.” Both of these statements are true. Money is not everything, yet money can show you some things. Where should you fall in these statements? Somewhere in the middle, between happy and progression. No matter what you do, money will always be a … Continue reading
Today, March 8th, is International Women’s Day. What exactly does that mean? It means that today we recognize all persons who identify as women. It means we recognize the work and efforts women do in this world. It means that we shine the light on women and give them their props. In this digital and … Continue reading
#BlackLivesMatter #SayHerName #SaveOurGirls #PrayFor ____. This generation of social content will go down in history as the hashtag and movement generation. With every news story comes a new hashtag and reason to rally. In every movement there is a focus that can be identified by the powerful words behind the pound symbol. There are also … Continue reading
What is this self-care that everyone post about multiple times a day on Facebook? Self-care is something you do to bring balance to your day and essentially your life. It is the healthy things you do to make sure that you can still function in this hectic world. Self-care does not need an announcement, it does not need an audience. You do it when you need to, and maintain it to maintain you. The action can be as little as watching your favorite show, or as grand as taking a trip. Some of my favorite self-care actions are taking a hot bath with essential oils, listening to Prince, looking at #laughingbabies on Instagram, and playing in my hair. As an adult I have learned to schedule self-care to boost some of the everyday task. On the weekends I hang out with people I know come with the good vibes wherever they go. At least once a year I plan a trip. Nothing big but just enough to breathe different air and eat different foods from my everyday routines.
When you self-care, the world does not seem so intolerable. Self-care also allows the world to view you as tolerable too. Balance is what makes the world go round. People may say it is money and power, but even with those tools when there is no balance events go bad quickly. Too much of anything can be a bad thing, even when it is meant to be good.
Giving yourself the chance to balance out and view the world with clear eyes is your responsibility. It is adult’ing done right.
What are some of your methods of self-care? Leave your comments below. Continue reading
Adult – noun: a person who is fully grown or developed or of age. 2.) a person who has attained the age of maturity as specified by law. (via dictionary.com)
Related forms: adulthood, adult like,adultness (via dictionary.com)
Adult’ing – noun, adjective, verb: that thing we are told we have to do, that we cannot wait for but want to run away from every time the alarm clock goes off. (via everyone over 21 years old)
When I was 13 years old, I could not wait until I turned 16 so I can drive and do more with my time outside of my parent’s house. Then when I was 16 years old I could not wait to turn 18 and graduate high school. Granted I did not think I would have it good until I finally turned 21 years old. At 21 I could rule the world, right? Maybe 25 years old was the magic number… I can rent a car without parental consent, I can get more money for school, I can travel without worrying about age constraints in other countries. Being an “adult” was awesome! I could not understand why my parents complained so much. That is until I turned 26 years old.
That magic number of this is adult’ing, hits everyone different. Mine was my 26th birthday, or some short time after, when I received a letter that I will no longer be covered under my parent’s insurance. No problem right? I have a job that offers insurance, I’ll just go to HR and sign up. I felt good and responsible. I have my own insurance. I am that much more of an adult… Until I saw my check. “Who forgot my extra $200!” I did… That is how much I had to pay to be an adult. “This is nonsense!” Oh, but it was only the start.
My vehicle seemed to age not as gracefully as I was. What once was Bertha the almighty, was now Bertha the old clunker. Went from paying $21 occasionally for an oil change, to $600 for new tires, $2,000 for shocks and breaks, and purchasing AAA because she breaks down every 5,000 miles. When I’m not shelling out cash for the doctor or Bertha, I am figuring out how to make it to everyone’s life events. Now at 31 years old (this is where some of you will yell at your screens since I refused to tell you my age during lessons and workshops, GOTCHA!), I have baby showers, job promotion dinners, “Grown-n-sexy” birthday celebrations, European tour girl’s trips, and so on. Oh! On top of all of that, I cannot eat like I am in college anymore. No more Ramen… Grocery shopping is its own chore that everyone needs to pay attention to in their younger years instead of sneaking grapes while their parent does all of the hard work.
So now that you are sweating or slumped, let me encourage you. The fact that you are reading this blog and others like it, you are ahead of the curve. Taking in the experience of others to help you along the way, is one of the best ways to go through this thing called adult’ing. Ready or not, you will and are an adult. Even the adults reading this blog can pick up on elements that are not always clear to us. You do not have to reinvent the wheel of being an adult, but you do not have to have it all figured out either. My grandfather is 91 years old and even he is still winging it sometimes, he just labels it “improvising”.
Be sure to check back every Wednesday and Friday for new content. Also, make sure you connect with me on social media. I have loads of information in my head and at my finger tips, but I want to make sure it is of use to you because I can talk your ear off.
Breathe. Read. Blink. You will be okay.
Happy Adult’ing! Continue reading
Adult'ing Your Life 